The folly9 of this poor man is not so rare. As mad as he are all those who sacrifice their home life to the demands of the world. And the danger in such a sacrifice is most menacing in times of unrest. Our contemporaries are constantly exposed to it, and constantly succumbing10. How many family treasures have they literally11 thrown away to satisfy worldly ambitions and conventions; but the happiness upon which they thought to come through these impious immolations always eludes13 them.
To give up the ancestral hearth14, to let the family traditions fall into desuetude15, to abandon the simple domestic customs, for whatever return, is to make a fool's bargain; and such is the place in society of family life, that if this be impoverished16, the trouble [130]is felt throughout the whole social organism. To enjoy a normal development, this organism has need of well-tried individuals, each having his own value, his own hall-mark. Otherwise society becomes a flock, and sometimes a flock without a shepherd. But whence does the individual draw his originality—this unique something, which, joined to the distinctive18 qualities of others, constitutes the wealth and strength of a community? He can draw it only from his own family. Destroy the assemblage of memories and practices whence emanates19 for each home an atmosphere in miniature, and you dry up the sources of character, sap the strength of public spirit.
It concerns the country that each home be a world, profound, respected, communicating to its members an ineffaceable moral imprint20. But before pursuing the subject further, let us rid ourselves of a misunderstanding. Family feeling, like all beautiful things, has its caricature, which is family egoism. Some families are like barred and bolted citadels21, their members organized for the exploitation of the whole world. Everything that does not directly concern them is indifferent to them. They live like colonists22, I had almost said intruders, in the society [131]around them. Their particularism is pushed to such an excess that they make enemies of the whole human race. In their small way they resemble those powerful societies, formed from time to time through the ages, which possess themselves of universal rule, and for which no one outside their own community counts. This is the spirit that has sometimes made the family seem a retreat of egoism which it was necessary to destroy for the public safety. But as patriotism23 and jingoism24 are as far apart as the east from the west, so are family feeling and clannishness25.
HERE we are talking of right family feeling, and nothing else in the world can take its place; for in it lie in germ all those fine and simple virtues26 which assure the strength and duration of social institutions. And the very base of family feeling is respect for the past; for the best possessions of a family are its common memories. An intangible, indivisible and inalienable capital, these souvenirs constitute a sacred fund that each member of a family ought to consider more precious than anything else he possesses. They exist in a dual17 form: in idea and in fact. They show [132]themselves in language, habits of thought, sentiments, even instincts, and one sees them materialized in portraits, furniture, buildings, dress, songs. To profane27 eyes, they are nothing; to the eyes of those who know how to appreciate the things of the family, they are relics28 with which one should not part at any price.
But what generally happens in our day? Worldliness wars upon the sentiment of family, and I know of no strife29 more impassioned. By great means and small, by all sorts of new customs, requirements and pretensions30, the spirit of the world breaks into the domestic sanctuary31. What are this stranger's rights? its titles? Upon what does it rest its peremptory32 claims? This is what people too often neglect to inquire. They make a mistake. We treat the invader33 as very poor and simple people do a pompous34 visitor. For this incommoding guest of a day, they pillage35 their garden, bully36 their children and servants, and neglect their work. Such conduct is not only wrong, it is impolitic. One should have the courage to remain what he is, in the face of all comers.
The worldly spirit is full of impertinences. Here is a home which has formed characters of mark, and [133]is forming them yet. The people, the furnishings, the customs are all in harmony. By marriage or through relations of business or pleasure, the worldly spirit enters. It finds everything out of date, awkward, too simple, lacking the modern touch. At first it restricts itself to criticism and light raillery. But this is the dangerous moment. Look out for yourself; here is the enemy! If you so much as listen to his reasonings, to-morrow you will sacrifice a piece of furniture, the next day a good old tradition, and so one by one the family heirlooms dear to the heart will go to the bric-a-brac dealer—and filial piety37 with them.
In the midst of your new habits and in the changed atmosphere, your friends of other days, your old relatives, will be expatriated. Your next step will be to lay them aside in their turn; the worldly spirit leaves the old out of consideration. At last, established in an absolutely transformed setting, even you will view yourself with amazement38. Nothing will be familiar, but surely it will be correct; at least the world will be satisfied!—Ah! that is where you are mistaken! After having made you cast out pure treasure as so much junk, it will find that your borrowed livery fits you ill, and [134]will hasten to make you sensible of the ridiculousness of the situation. Much better have had from the beginning the courage of your convictions, and have defended your home.
Many young people when they marry, listen to this voice of the world. Their parents have given them the example of a modest life; but the new generation thinks it affirms its rights to existence and liberty, by repudiating39 ways in its eyes too patriarchal. So these young folks make efforts to set themselves up lavishly40 in the latest fashion, and rid themselves of useless property at dirt-cheap prices. Instead of filling their houses with objects which say: Remember! they garnish41 them with quite new furnishings that as yet have no meaning. Wait, I am wrong; these things are often symbols, as it were, of a facile and superficial existence. In their midst one breathes a certain heady vapor42 of mundanity43. They recall the life outside, the turmoil44, the rush. And were one sometimes disposed to forget this life, they would call back his wandering thought and say: Remember!—in another sense: Do not forget your appointment at the club, the play, the races! The home, then, becomes a sort of half-way house where one comes to rest a little [135]between two prolonged absences; it isn't a good place to stay. As it has no soul, it does not speak to yours. Time to eat and sleep, and then off again! Otherwise you become as dull as a hermit45.
We are all acquainted with people who have a rage for being abroad, who think the world would no longer go round if they didn't figure on all sides of it. To stay at home is penal46; there they cease to be in view. A horror of home life possesses them to such a degree that they would rather pay to be bored outside than be amused gratuitously47 within.
In this way society slowly gravitates toward life in herds48, which must not be confounded with public life. The life in herds is somewhat like that of swarms49 of flies in the sun. Nothing so much resembles the worldly life of a man as the worldly life of another man. And this universal banality50 destroys the very essence of public spirit. One need not journey far to discover the ravages51 made in modern society by the spirit of worldliness; and if we have so little foundation, so little equilibrium52, calm good sense and initiative, one of the chief reasons lies in the undermining of the home life. The masses [136]have timed their pace by that of people of fashion. They too have become worldly. Nothing can be more so than to quit one's own hearth for the life of saloons. The squalor and misery53 of the homes is not enough to explain the current which carries each man away from his own. Why does the peasant desert for the inn the house that his father and grandfather found so comfortable? It has remained the same. There is the same fire in the same chimney. Whence comes it that it lights only an incomplete circle, when in olden times young and old sat shoulder to shoulder? Something has changed in the minds of men. Yielding to dangerous impulses, they have broken with simplicity. The fathers have quitted their post of honor, the wives grow dull beside the solitary54 hearth, and the children quarrel while waiting their turn to go abroad, each after his own fancy.
We must learn again to live the home life, to value our domestic traditions. A pious12 care has preserved certain monuments of the past. So antique dress, provincial55 dialects, old folk songs have found appreciative56 hands to gather them up before they should disappear from the earth. What a good deed, to guard these crumbs57 of a great past, these vestiges58 of the souls of our ancestors! Let us [137]do the same for our family traditions, save and guard as much as possible of the patriarchal, whatever its form.
BUT not everyone has traditions to keep. All the more reason for redoubling the effort to constitute and foster a family life. And to do this there is need neither of numbers nor a rich establishment. To create a home you must have the spirit of home. Just as the smallest village may have its history, its moral stamp, so the smallest home may have its soul. Oh! the spirit of places, the atmosphere which surrounds us in human dwellings60! What a world of mystery! Here, even on the threshold the cold begins to penetrate61, you are ill at ease, something intangible repulses62 you. There, no sooner does the door shut you in than friendliness63 and good humor envelop64 you. It is said that walls have ears. They have also voices, a mute eloquence65. Everything that a dwelling59 contains is bathed in an ether of personality. And I find proof of its quality even in the apartments of bachelors and solitary women. What an abyss between one room and another room! Here, all is dead, indifferent, [138]commonplace: the device of the owner is written all over it, even in his fashion of arranging his photographs and books: All is the same to me! There, one breathes in animation66, a contagious67 joy in life. The visitor hears repeated in countless68 fashions: "Whoever you are, guest of an hour, I wish you well, peace be with you!"
Words can do little justice to the subject of home, tell little about the effect of a favorite flower in the window, or the charm of an old arm-chair where the grandfather used to sit, offering his wrinkled hands to the kisses of chubby69 children. Poor moderns, always moving or remodeling! We who from transforming our cities, our houses, our customs and creeds70, have no longer where to lay our heads, let us not add to the pathos71 and emptiness of our changeful existence by abandoning the life of the home. Let us light again the flame put out on our hearths72, make sanctuaries73 for ourselves, warm nests where the children may grow into men, where love may find privacy, old age repose74, prayer an altar, and the fatherland a cult75!
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