In Delusional3 Jealousy, the patient suffering repressed homosexual cravings, projects his own desires into the personality of his life mate. An unconsciously homosexual husband, attracted sexually by every man in his environment, assumes that his wife is also subject to the same attraction and suspects her of having sexual relations with every man who arouses him. An unconsciously homosexual wife imagines that her husband has a liaison5 with every woman who appeals to her perverse6 fancies.
The paranoiac7 being at times very clever and convincing, that form of jealousy, insane as it may[Pg 148] appear to the man or the woman who is the victim of it, may deceive the outsiders. In certain cases, the delusional character of it is obvious to everybody, including the jealous person.
A paranoiac told me that every night he "saw" a man entering his wife's bedroom thru a window protected by solid iron bars so close to one another that a cat could have squeezed thru them only with difficulty.
This was, of course, a case of hallucination, pure and simple.
Homosexualism. Other cases are more complicated. Dr. S. Ferenczi, of Budapest, reports two of them which illustrate8 well the mechanism10 of insane jealousy due to unconscious homosexualism.
He had a housekeeper11 whose husband, a man of thirty-eight, also busied himself about the house in his spare time. He was constantly cleaning Ferenczi's rooms, putting fresh polish on the doors and floors, pottering around, evidently anxious to show his good will and his devotion to his wife's employer.
This man was very intemperate12 and beat his wife on several occasions. Altho she was most unattractive, he constantly accused her of infidelity with Ferenczi and every male patient treated by him.
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When the woman revealed those facts to Ferenczi, he gave the couple notice but decided14 to have a serious talk with her husband.
The man denied having beaten his wife, altho this had been confirmed by witnesses. He maintained that his wife was a real vampire15, whose lust9 was sapping his life strength. During this explanation, he impulsively16 took Ferenczi's hand and kissed it, saying that he had never met anyone dearer or kinder than the doctor.
A talk with the woman revealed to Ferenczi that the man had always been very distant in his attitude to his wife. He would often push her away brutally17, calling her all sorts of opprobrious18 names.
When he learnt that Ferenczi had given her notice, the insane man abused and hit his wife, and threatened to throw her out on the street and to stab "her darling." Ferenczi at first paid no attention to those threats for the man remained very devoted19, respectful and well behaved. When he learnt, however, that the man was sleeping with a sharp kitchen knife under his pillow and when he woke up one night to find him standing20 in his bedroom, he notified the authorities and the maniac21 was committed to an insane asylum22.
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"There is no doubt," Ferenczi writes, "that this was a case of alcoholic23 delusion4 of jealousy. The conspicuous24 feature of his homosexual attachment25 to me, however, allows the interpretation26 that the jealousy he felt of every man, was only the projection27 of his own desires for the male sex. Also, his lack of desire for his wife was not simply impotence but was determined28 by his unconscious homosexuality.
"To him alcohol played the part of an inhibition-poison and brought to the surface his crude homosexual erotism, which, as it was intolerable to his consciousness, he imputed29 to his wife.
"It was only subsequently that I found a complete confirmation30 of this. He had been married before, years ago. He lived only a short time in peace with his first wife, began to drink soon after the wedding and abused his wife, tormenting31 her with scenes of jealousy until she left him and secured a divorce.
"In the interval32 between his two marriages, he was said to have been a temperate13, reliable and steady man and to have taken to drink only after his second marriage. Alcoholism was not the deeper cause of his paranoia; it was rather that, in the insoluble conflict between his conscious hetero[Pg 151]sexual and his unconscious homosexual desires, he took to alcohol, which brought the homosexual erotism to the surface, his consciousness getting rid of it by way of projection, of delusions33 of jealousy. He saddled his wife with his desires and by jealous scenes assured himself that he was in love with her."
A Jealous Wife. The other case is that of a woman, still young, who after living in harmony with her husband for a number of years and bearing him daughters, began to suffer from violent fits of jealousy soon after the birth of another child, a boy. Alcoholism played no part in this case.
She suspected every move her husband made. She dismissed maid after maid and finally had only male servants in the house. Curiously34 enough, her jealousy was directed against very young and very old, even very ugly women, while she was not jealous of her society friends or of the pretty women whom she and her husband occasionally met. Her conduct at home became so unbearable35 and her threats so dangerous that she was taken to a sanatorium upon Freud's advice. After which Ferenczi proceeded to analyse her.
She harbored many delusions of greatness and ideas of reference. She thought she found in the[Pg 152] local paper veiled allusions36 to her depravity and to her ridiculous position as a betrayed wife. The highest personalities37 in the land were banded against her, etc.
She had married her husband against her wishes and when she bore the first daughter and he manifested his disappointment, she began to feel that she had indeed married the wrong man. She then made the first scene of jealousy in connection with a little girl of thirteen who came to help the servant girls. While still in bed after her confinement38, she made the little girl kneel and swear by her father's life that she was still pure. This oath calmed her at the time.
After the birth of her son, she felt she had fulfilled her duty to her husband and was free. She flirted39 with every man but would not tolerate the slightest liberty from them. At the same time, she made her husband violent scenes of jealousy and tried to incapacitate him, thru her constant passionate40 advances, for relations with any other women. When taken to a sanatorium, she gave evidence, thru her behavior toward the other women inmates41 of strong homosexual leanings. She confessed to Ferenczi that there had been homosexual experiences in her childhood. She then became[Pg 153] more and more unmanageable and the analysis had to be abandoned.
A Case of Projection. This is Ferenczi's comment upon this example of insane jealousy: "This case of delusional jealousy becomes clear when we assume that it was a question of projection upon the husband of her desire for her own sex. A girl who had grown up in an exclusively feminine environment is suddenly forced into a marriage of convenience with a man she dislikes. She reconciles herself to it, however, and only shows indignation when her husband proves cruelly unkind (disappointment over the birth of a girl) by letting her desire turn toward her childhood ideal, the little girl of thirteen. The attempt fails, she cannot endure homosexuality any longer and has to project it upon her husband.
"Finally after the birth of her son, when her 'duty' is done, the homosexuality she had kept in bounds takes possession in a crude erotic way of all the objects that offer no possibility for sublimation42 (young girls, old women etc.), although all this erotism, (with the exception of cases when she can hide it under the mask of harmless flirtation), is imputed to the husband. In order to support herself in that lie, the patient is compelled to show[Pg 154] increased coquetry toward the male sex, to whom she had become very indifferent and, indeed, to demean herself like a nymphomaniac."
I have cited both cases at length for they confirm the statement I have made elsewhere in this book that very exaggerated feeling is usually a mask for the opposite feeling. Ferenczi's two patients, in love with persons of their own sex, "simulated" neurotically44 a passionate attachment for their heterosexual mates, who, naturally could not attract them.
Masked Sadism. Their stormy jealousy was more akin45 to hatred46 than to love. There was no tenderness in it but a good deal of sadism, of cruelty, and they used it in order to torture their mates on whom, in the course of their jealous scenes, they could heap up abuse, which they would not, under any other circumstances, dare to voice as freely.
Many a husband would like to insult a wife he detests47. Neurotic43 jealousy supplies him with an excuse which he might not find elsewhere.
After which, if the vocabulary he used on that occasion is especially vile48, he has a good scapegoat49 at his disposal. "I was crazed by jealousy and did not realise what I was saying."
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jealousy
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delusional
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housekeeper
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vampire
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hatred
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